pontes e travessias

«Perhaps one mourns when one accepts that by the loss one undergoes one will be changed, possibly for ever. Perhaps mourning has to do with agreeing to undergo a transformation (perhaps one should say submitting to a transformation) the full result of which one cannot know in advance. There is losing, as we know, but there is also the transformative effect of loss.»

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«It is not as if an “I” exists independently over here and then simply loses a “you” over there, especially if the attachment to “you” is part of what composes who “I” am. If I lose you, under these conditions, then not only do I mourn the loss but I become inscrutable to myself. (…) On one level, I think I have lost “you” only to discover that “I” have gone missing as well.»

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Judith Butler, Precarious Life. The Powers of Mourning and Justice, 2004